Look at you  
Different day but same damn bags  
You're on my porch  
And I don't even have to ask  
I see tears in your eyes  
As you come inside and breakdown  
 
So what's he done  
And I hope this don't take long  
Cause you know one call from him  
And you'll be home before morn  
Here's a friendly hug  
Followed by tough love  
Are you ready?  
 
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He's only gonna treat you  
The way he knows he can  
It's all up to you my sista to show him that he can't  
Have you had enough  
Cause it's been long enough  
Time for a change  
Starting with you  
 
No, don't say a word  
Listen to Deborah for once  
Cause I went thru the same thing  
So I'll tell you what needs to be done  
Mavis said it best  
Girl respect yourself  
It starts with you  
 
You want him to be a better man  
And you want him to treat you better than you treat yourself,  
Girl you can help by showing him how he can  
You can start by building your self esteem  
Start believing you can do anything  
And you'll find your man will fall in line  
And if he don't than leave him behind  
 
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